The trouble with dating (part 1 of 2)

Ok so I recently have had a conversation with some friends that I would like to share with all you guys about dating. So Just to start things off If you are in favor of dating or you just are considering it then ask yourself this question. What does dating do and more importantly why do would I do it? These are very important questions and I will tell you what most people would say. Some would say "well I need to date If i want to marry" and others "well..I do it because my friends do it" but I think most people would say something more along this line "I date because its fun!!". Well lets just look at these for a minute. So for those who would say the last two this is what i will tell you. If you are doing something only because its fun or because your pressured into doing it chances are its probably something you a. don't need to do and b. probably should not be doing. And the Bible talks about those who only seek the pleasure. In Proverbs 21:17 It says "He that loveth pleasure shall be a poor man: he that loveth wine and oil shall not be rich." in 1 Timothy 5:6 it says "But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth." and last but not least the bible said in 2 Timothy 3:4 that in the last days men would be "Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;". So as we can see there we it is not good to only seek after what is "fun" or what "feels good". But instead we are to put on the full armor of God like it says in Ephesians 6:10-17: "10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God." Now for those of you who think that dating is necessary and needed here is what I say. Where In the Bible does it say so and so dated so and so? Unless you can show me in the Bible that dating was done before marriage then we can safely assume it is not necessary. But then you might say "But where in the Bible does it say that dating is wrong?". Well lets just take a look at what the outcomes of dating are before we go any further. So we have a few outcomes 1. The two people involved date for awhile like each other and get married. 2. The two people involved decide they want to rush ahead so they get into bed together before getting married. 3. Something happens in the relationship and one of the two people involved leaves the relationship and breaks the other persons heart. Now unfortunately the last to are the most common today the first one not so much and even when it does happen it is most time a very broken marriage because the initial feelings for that person have now gone. Marriage takes commitment. Now lets see what the Bible says about the last two outcomes Ephesians 5:3 "But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;". 1 Thessalonians 4:3: "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:" 1Corinthians 6:18: "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." So for anyone who does not know what fornication is here is the definition: voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other So we see from all this that dating leads to premarital sex which is fornication which God hates and tells us to stay away from. Dating also leads to broken marriages because people get married to soon because they had the fuzzy feelings or what have you. And dating leads to brokenness in peoples lives like in the case where one person leaves the relationship and the other is torn apart. So we can see from these few scriptures and many others that God does not approve of what dating leads too. So short answer....Don't do it!!!So now you have heard my reasoning and what I believe scripture and God back up. I will soon be posting the second part to this post which is Alternatives to dating so stay tuned. P.S. If you want to contact me to tell me your opinion or comments you can do so by sending me an email at ben.forg@gmail.com or you can look me up on google plus as Ben Forg. With love, Ben Forg